I love being positive, don’t get me wrong. But I think that people tend to talk about positivity and how much you should be happy but ignore the fact that there are some downsides and challenges to being a positive person. Challenges that, at times, can making being positive difficult and might make you want to stop. While I’m hear to talk about some of those difficulties, I’m also hear to tell you that these challenges can be overcome with a strong will and an understanding that it is always better to have a positive outlook than a negative one, because there’s no point in spending your life negatively when there is so much to be grateful and happy for.
So here are 3 reasons why being a genuinely positive person can lead to some challenges:
1. People notice your change in mood
The biggest downside of being a naturally positive person is that when (in those fairly infrequent times) you aren’t actually positive and joyful, it’s easier for people to take notice. You spend so much of your time expressing joy in everything that when it stops temporarily, people will ask “is everything okay?”.
I write this as a challenge because I myself struggle with this on a regular basis. Life gets in the way from time to time, and it’s important to recognize, analyze, and take in all your emotions to get a deeper look into yourself, your true feelings, and state of being. But when you are outwardly positive almost always, it opens the door for people to be concerned those few times you aren’t.
Now this is a good thing, it means that people in your life care, but sometimes for the positive person, you just need a day or two to gather yourself before being back to your happy and optimistic self. It may even be something that when you say “No I’m fine, really” you actually mean it, but because you’re slightly off your game, others perceive it as something more serious.
2. Negative People Will Bother You
Another challenge of being a positive person is that those who spend most of their time in a negative mindset will bother you. You won’t be able to understand why people act this way, and you won’t be able to relate.
This is a challenge because it is up to the optimist to open the door of happiness to those who live in a world of negativity and pessimism.
It is easy to be negative. It feels good to complain. But that’s only easy when you are trying to avoid a problem or be lazy. When it’s time to take measurable, dedication action towards conquering your issue or current state of being, the only mindset that will get you through is a positive one.
There is a reason why people complain and live in negativity. Those people don’t have the mindset and strength to take action so that they won’t have anything to be pessimistic about. It’s easier to be upset about your current situation than it is to turn your situation around, but that won’t get you very far, I promise.
And maybe it’s the positive person’s fault for letting their negativity get to them. I know it’s difficult for me to allow negative people in my life, but I understand that everyone is different and it’s just the way some people are. They may be happy with their lives and positive some of the time, but they just express negativity more dramatically or overtly to others. And that’s okay.
3. People Will Look at You Differently
It’s a shame that we live in a world where it is more surprising to have an act of kindness bestowed upon yourself than one of meanness, but that’s the way the current world is. And the positive person will live with the challenge of being perceived as weird or different, because you are often acting not to the status quo.
Some of the time your positivity will be recognized and people will envy your ability to have that outlook on life and all things in general. But often times other people may perceive your positivity as you being easy to manipulate, weak, and even a pushover. That your willingness to accommodate for the betterment and happiness of others is a sign that you can’t think and defend yourself.
It is difficult for people to understand your feelings and attitude toward any given situation, and because the positive person seeks to bring positivity out in everyone, those with a different mindset (skeptics and pessimists) will think differently about you, often with negativity.
But don’t mind those people, because only you and your other like-minded, positive peers know the true benefits of being positive and staying happy. Plus, you know better than to let negative people change the way you feel about yourself.
Being positive is a challenge, but it is a worthwhile one to take on. You’ll feel better every day when you begin each one in a positive state of mind, helping you become the strongest, healthiest, and happiest person you can be.